#DIY: How to Easily Build an Industrial Farmhouse Console Table.

Console tables made of solid wood and steel can cost $500-$800!Expensive Industrial Farmhouse Console Table

I built a similar solid wood and steel console table in one afternoon for around $150.

Industrial Console Table DIY

HOW TO BUILD THIS INDUSTRIAL FARMHOUSE CONSOLE TABLE:

1. Go to your local hardware store (I bought my supplies at Home Depot) and buy:File Jan 21, 7 48 44 AMIndustrial Console Table List of Supplies

2. Remove any stickers and wipe away any debris, then LOOSELY connect the nipples and flanges to make four 24″ legs and four 3″ legs. (You will still be able to see some of the threading, they will not screw together completely.)

3. Spray paint the legs with the Rust-oleum hammered paint and primer.

4. While the legs are drying for 30-60 minutes, distress the boards. (My 11-year old son and his friend sanded the ends of the boards to smooth the edges and took a hammer and screwdriver to the boards. (Scratch against the grains of the boards to distress them. This will show up more deeply when you stain it.)

5. Use a damp washcloth to wipe away any sawdust from the sanding or debris from the distressing process.

6. Stain the boards. WEAR RUBBER GLOVES TO PROTECT YOUR SKIN. Use a washcloth and dip it into the Minwax stain. Rub your wash cloth along the boards to stain the boards. You won’t need to use very much stain. I only did one coat, but you could add another coat if you want the stain to appear darker.

7. Wait for the stain to dry about 30-60 minutes. (Optional: apply Minwax paste finishing wax to give it a matte glossy finish and protect your wood).

8. Measure the boards from the end to position the legs an equal-distance on each side of the boards. I measured 12″ in on each side, drawing a vertical line across the width of the board marking 12″ from the end of the board.

9. Screw the flanges onto the boards. I aligned the edge of the flanges inside my 12″ mark.

10. Drill pilot holes for each of the flanges. I unscrewed the nipples and flanges and held the flanges in place while I drilled the pilot holes.

11. Screw the 12 flanges to the top and bottom of one board and to the bottom of the other board.

12. Screw the 3″ nipples with flanges to the bottom of the board. It will be wobbly until you balance out the height by tightening or loosening the connections. (I found that it was easiest to screw the nipple into the flange completely on the bottom and loosen it while tightening the connection to the flanges above it.

13. Once the footings are balanced and attached to the bottom board, completely screw in the nipples to the flanges on the top of the same board.

14. Get someone to help you align the flanges attached to the top board with the nipples screwed into the bottom board. Once they are aligned, you will loosen the fittings on the bottom slightly as you tighten the fittings on the top. Test the connection periodically until the fittings are secured and aligned. This can take some time as you are balancing the height to make it level.

You are finished! Congratulations!!

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The Step By Step Guide to Make a Weighted Blanket for $25.

The supplies to make this weighted blanket cost about $25. It took me three hours to complete. If you are a savvy seamstress (unlike myself) you might be able to finish even faster!

This size and weight is for a 40-pound child.

The formula to choose the weight is: 10% of the child’s weight plus one pound.

1. Purchase 3-yards of fabric. I used flannel fabric because it is easiest to work with (and it was on sale).

2. Wash and dry fabric, then iron out any wrinkles so the fabric lays flat.

3. Fold the fabric in half so the “pretty” sides are face to face.

4. Use a washable marker to measure out a rectangle size 48″x40″.

5. Trim off any excess fabric leaving a one inch border around the lines.

6. Pin the blanket together and sew along THREE SIDES ONLY of the blanket leaving one end open. (You will see two orange marks on my blanket–I made a mistake you don’t need to do this).

7. Trim away any excess fabric so there is about a quarter inch left over (again, ignore the second orange line on the left –that was my mistake).

8. Turn the blanket inside-out to reveal the bright colors on the outside. It should look like a giant pillowcase.

9. Use the tips of your scissors to push the corners out.

10. Make a secure trim around the edge of the blanket, by sewing along the perimeter 2-inches from the edge on three sides to create a trim.

11. Now it is time to draw the lines for the vertical stitches for the weighted blanket. Make a mark using a washable marker along the horizontal and vertical edges of all sides of the blanket every 4-inches. Use a yardstick to connect the dots and make a grid that you will use as guidelines for sewing the 4″x4″ squares of the blanket.

12. Once you have your 4″ x 4″ squares grid completed, you are ready to sew the vertical lines.

13. Sew along all the vertical guidelines until you have 9 vertical columns with openings at the top.

14. It’s time to fill the columns and sew the rows, one at a time. I purchased plastic pellets in bulk from BGBoards LLC (bgboardsllc.etsy.com) for $25.99 plus shipping for a 16-pound bag.

15. Fill each of the nine columns with one shot glass full of plastic pellets. (If I had a scale, I would have weighed one ounce of beads for each column).

16. Shake all the beads to the bottom of the blanket.

17. Sew a stitch along the bottom row to seal the beads into squares. Continue doing this for all ten rows.

* be careful that you don’t get one of the plastic pellets stuck underneath your sewing machine needle. It will break it!

18. After you have sewn all the rows, it is time to finish the end.

19. Use pins to tuck the ends together.

Remove the pins and add one extra row of stitching…you don’t want any little pellets falling out!

20. Wash your blanket in the washing machine on the gentle cycle to rinse away any ink marks. Air dry. Enjoy!

DISCLAIMER: NEVER LEAVE A CHILD ALONE WITH A WEIGHTED BLANKET!

And…if you dont want to make one, you can always buy one!

#Easiest Way to Start a Positive Affirmation Practice

Every year, I purchase the Louise Hay I Can Do It® Calendar with 365 Daily Affirmations.I love reading the “I CAN DO IT” daily affirmations every morning to myself and my family. 2018-01-15 17.41.14.jpg

PLUS (added bonus) after the day has passed, I use scissors to cut off the date on the calendar and keep the beautiful affirmations for various uses throughout the year.

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I keep them in a jar on my counter and use the affirmation pages to write lunchbox notes to my kids and husband.

I tape the affirmations around my house to remind me to think positively.

I share the affirmations with my friends to glue on their vision boards at my annual vision board party.  See: Vision Boards 101 .

If you only buy one daily desktop calendar this year, make it the positively powerful I Can Do It® 2018 Calendar: 365 Daily Affirmations.

If affirmations aren’t your “thing” and you prefer a little sarcastic humor, then go with: 2018 Anti Affirmations Desk Calendar. It is filled with witty and sarcastic humor that is sure to give you a chuckle each day.

ANTI-AFFIRMATION CALENDAR

Gratitude Boards 101

11 Awesome Things to do in Kauai

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    1. Breakfast at the Makana Terrace ath the St. Regis Hotel in Princeville. $39/person buffet, very delicious!2016-09-11 07.42.21St. Regis
    2. Poipu beach for Monk Seal sightings and swimming, drive through the Tree Tunnel to Poipu on your way!2016-09-11 14.46.03poipu tree tunnel
    3. Sunset at Hanalei Bay followed by Sushi dinner at The Dolphin.2016-09-09 23.38.42
    4. Check out Waimea Canyon, it’s like the little Grand Canyon.  Drive all the way to the top to catch a glimpse of the Na Pali coast line. 2016-09-11 12.04.472016-09-11 12.13.25 2016-09-11 12.41.25
    5. Grab lunch at Brick Oven Pizza before or after and sample some Hawaiian Shortbread cookies at Kauai Cookie Company.2016-09-08 14.17.29brick oven pizza Kauai
    6. Cruise the Napali Coast with Kauai Sea Tours–all day 6-hour tour in the raft (not the catamaran) you see the NaPali coast, beaches and sea caves from the water, snorkel, picnic lunch. About $160/person.2016-09-12 14.12.362016-09-12 14.30.03
    7. Eat breakfast at Kountry Kitchen (banana macadamia nut pancakes) in Kapaa, then check out the cute little beach town shops.

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    8. Hike the Kalalau trail.  This is not for everyone, but if you want a great workout and amazingly awesome views, hike the Kalalau trail to a breathtaking beach (4-miles round trip)or on to Hanakapi’ai Falls (8-miles round trip). This hike REQUIRES HIKING BOOTS if you go on to the falls.  I did it in my Tevas and my feet were blistered and hurting for days afterwards.  Bring lots of water and snacks.  You will get muddy and wet.  Totally worth it though…best activity we did on the island.
  1. Spend the day at Secret Beach.  This beach is hidden down a short, steep trail with views of Kilauea Lighthouse, shade and deep in crowded beaches.
  2. Kayak up the Wailua River and hike to Secret Falls.
  3. Soak up some sun and float in the calm waters at Salt Pond on the west side (Leeward) of the island…perfect if it’s rainy on the windward side.2016-09-08 15.20.32

Gratitude Boards 101

I am a HUGE believer in the power of Vision Boards.  I believe that when we have a clear picture of what we want to attract or create in our lives, those desires manifest more easily and effortlessly.
I actually have several vision boards.  What started out as a small paper vision board has evolved into one huge poster sized vision board…and then I created two more. (Hey, a girl can never dream too big, right?)  I post my vision boards in the exercise area of my house–a place where I can look at them regularly.  Every morning, I wake up and “run” towards the life of my dreams–completely oblivious to the dreamy life I already have.
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This morning, I realized that something REALLY BIG is missing from my practice.  In order to attract and create the life I most desire, I must FIRST bring my energy to a higher vibration.  How?  Gratitude.
Oh, don’t worry…I already practice gratitude daily.  I THINK of at least one thing I am grateful for before I get out of bed in the morning and again before I go to sleep at night.   I also WRITE in a gratitude journal, which I keep next to my bed.  My gratitude journal is where I document the events and experiences during that day that I am truly grateful for.  My gratitude journal sits shut on my night stand most of the time–except for the rare  occasion when I read and reflect on the many joys in my life.
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Today, I was inspired to create somehthing I will SEE...a visual reminder of the many blessings already present in my life. A Gratitude Board, if you will.  Images are so powerful.  One picture can trigger a flood of emotions.  My intention for creating a Gratitude Board is to easily spark a flame of intense love and appreciation.  When we are in a space of love, we can more easily give this love to others, thus opening a space to attract more into our lives.
I spent an hour looking through my Dropbox and Shutterfly albums printing pictures that stimulate a deep sense of joy and gratitude when I look at them.
I printed images representative of:
1.  My basic needs–shelter, transportation, food, rest.
2.  My loving relationships–including family, friends.
3.  The beauty of nature that surrounds me both plants and animals.
4.  My successes–my job and creative accomplishments.
5. My experiences–both everyday moments like making a fort under the kitchen table and more exotic experiences such as rafting down a waterfall.
After all the pictures were printed, I arranged them into a collage on a piece of poster board. The activity brought me happy tears on more than one occasion as I remembered and felt those memories.  Looking at those pictures made it so easy for me to feel appreciation for all of the blessings in my life.
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My Gratitude Board is now posted in a place where I will see it first thing (and frequently) everyday.  My plan is to take a few minutes to let myself acknowledge and feel gratitude for everything I have…my health, family, friends, pets, my job, shelter, transportation, my community, food, my successes and many experiences of joy and adventure. My hope is that this practice will expand my heart and increase my energetic frequency to help create a space in my life for my love, more relationships, more experiences, and more of all of the things on my Gratitude Board.
I invite you to create your own Gratitude Board.  I’d love to see your finished product and hear how your Gratitude Board has supplemented your Vision Board and current gratitude practices!
#GratitudeBoard

Are you prepared for THE END (of daylight savings)?

The end of daylight savings time is just around the corner. Most of us are ecstatic to “fall back” and gain an extra hour of sleep.  But, for some parents, the time change can be a sleep setback.  Why?

Your child’s internal clock doesn’t naturally “fall back” with the rest of the digital clocks which magically change overnight while you sleep.  Nope.  You can bet that if your kiddo is usually bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at 6:30 a.m., she’ll be ready to shimmy and shake at 5:30am on the day after daylight savings end. It’s not her fault.  She doesn’t know about the time change and 5:30am feels like 6:30am to your child – because it ACTUALLY WAS 6:30 just one day before!

Which is why “falling back” can create sleep problems for parents. The end of daylight savings time can cause some kids to wake-up earlier, which then dominoes into earlier naps and bedtimes.  Then, before you know it, that smooth sleep schedule is converted into a cycle of overtired crankiness.

To keep the time change from spoiling your family’s sleep, here are a few things to try:

  1. Get outside or at least soak up some sunlight in the early evening. This helps regulate your child’s melatonin, a hormone that helps regulate their body’s internal circadian clock.
  2. Make sure to stick to your regular bedtime routine.
  3. Take measures (i.e. blackout shades) to ensure that your kiddo’s room isn’t too bright in the morning.
  4. Cut your kid some slack in the days following daylight saving time, the time change can cause such short-term changes in your child’s mood and behavior, but your patience and understanding will help her adjust more easily.
  5. If preventative measures don’t work, you can get back to that old schedule by slowly adjusting your child’s schedule. Try moving naps and bedtime forward by 10-15 minutes every few days, until she is back to her regular routine.

If you need something super creative to “fall back” on…check out Snooze.  A storybook tool that persuades sleep-defying children to hit-the-hay, so Snooze (a magical flying sheep) can pay them a visit while they sleep and leave behind a special surprise.  Check out this tried-and-true story book tool created by your truly at www.snoozethesheep.com.

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Is your child ready to stay home alone?

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Some parents dread it, while others are anxiously awaiting it…the decision to leave your child home alone for the first time. How do you determine if your child is ready to stay home alone? Only a few states have laws that specify the age when a child can be left home alone, including Maryland (age 8) and Illinois (age 14). In Kansas and Missouri, state laws do not specify the age at which a child can be left home alone.

Most states have guidelines with the Department of Health and Human Services or other child protective agencies that test a child’s ability to be left home alone. According to the Child Welfare Reform Information Gateway, here are some questions to consider before leaving your child home alone:

  • Does your child feel comfortable being home alone?
  • Does your child obey rules and make good decisions?
  • Is your child physically and mentally able to care for himself?
  • How does your child respond to stressful situations?
  • How long will your child be left home alone?
  • What time of day will your child be left alone?
  • What routines well your child be responsible for? (i.e. Will your child need to fix a meal?)
  • Is your home safe and free of hazards?
  • How safe is your neighborhood?
  • Are there adults nearby that you trust and you are home and can offer mediate systems if there’s an emergency or if your child get scared?
  • Does your child know what to do if a visitor comes to the door?
  • Does your family have a safety plan for emergencies? Can your child follow this plan?
  • Does your child no his or her full name, address, and phone number?
  • Does your child know where you are and how to contact you at all times?
  • Does your child know who to contact if you cannot be reached? 

 

Once you have determined that your child is ready to stay home alone, the following tips may help prepare your child to feel more comfortable about staying home alone:

  1. Communicate. Encourage your child to share his feelings with you about staying home alone. Have this conversation before leaving and when you return.
  2. Establish rules. Make sure your child knows what is (and is not allowed) when you’re not home. Set clear limits.  Some experts suggest making a list of chores or other tasks to keep children busy while you are gone.
  3. Have a trial period. Leave your child home alone for a short time while walking the dog around the block or running a quick errand to the grocery store. This is a good way to see how your child will manage on their own.
  4. Role-play. Act out possible scenarios to help your child learn what to do if a visitor comes to the door and how to answer phone calls in a way that doesn’t reveal that a parent is not at home.
  5. Discuss emergencies. Talk about what your child considers an emergency and what you consider an emergency. Create a form with the plan and contact numbers in the event of an emergency.
  6. Prepare. Spend time with your child before you leave preparing simple snacks and meals, making sure doors are locked, reviewing house rules and expectations for behavior. This is a great opportunity to fill your child’s bucket and let them know how much you care about them and their safety.
  7. Check in. Call your child while you are away to see how everything is going. If you are not able to check in, ask a trusted neighbor or friend to do this for you.
  8. Don’t overdo it. Even a mature responsible child needs interaction with their peers and adults. Consider other options such as programs offered by schools, community centers, youth organizations or faith-based organizations.


If you determine your child is not ready to be left home alone consider these options for childcare:

Two Strategies to Help your Child’s Sleep Schedule when Daylight Savings Time Begins

 Daylight Savings Time begins on Sunday, March 13th, 2016.  This is the time of year when we spring our clocks forward (and lose one-hour of sleep). For most of us, the lost hour of shut-eye is no big deal, but for young children, daylight savings can create a kink in their sleep-wake cycle.

So, what can parents do?

First and foremost, begin by developing these healthy sleep habits:

  1. Establish a consistent sleep schedule for your child. Bedtime and nap times are always the same time.
  2. Establish a 20-30 minute bedtime routine. (i.e. Brush teeth, story time, prayers, snuggles, good night kiss.)
  3. Know your child’s sleepy cues. Consistency is encouraged, but also be aware of your child’s sleepy cues. (Yawning, irritability, etc.) An over-tired child will have a more difficult time falling asleep, so start the bedtime routine as soon as you see those sleepy cues.
  4. Eliminate bright lights or screens at least an hour before bedtime. Blue light interferes with melatonin production and can create bigger bedtime battles.

Once you have these basic sleep practices in place, choose one of these two methods to help your little one transition with the time change:  “Go with the Flow” or “Adjust the Schedule Steady and Slow”.

“GO WITH THE FLOW”

WHO: Early risers, kids who typically wake up at the crack of dawn and kids older than two years old.

HOW:

  1. Move all your clocks ahead one hour before going to bed Saturday night (March 12, 2016)
  2. On Sunday, continue with your normal routine. If you have an early-riser, your child should wake up a little later.
  3. Keep nap and mealtime routines on schedule according to their usual schedule. (i.e. If nap time is noon, keep it at noon)
  4. Keep bedtime the same as always, if bedtime has always been 7:30pm, keep it at 7:30pm.


“ADJUST THE SCHEDULE STEADY AND SLOW”

WHO: Babies and children who are more sensitive to changes in schedule

HOW: Slowly adjust your child’s bedtime after the time change:

  1.   Shift your clocks forward one hour on Saturday night (March 12, 2016).
  2.   Sunday, keep your child in bed until the new waking time, which would be 30 minutes earlier than normal. So if your child normally wakes at 8:00 a.m., you will want to wake your child up at 7:30 a.m. (which is the old 6:30 a.m.).
  3.   For bedtime, you’ll want to have your child in bed at 8:30 p.m. (this is the old 7:30 p.m.).
  4.   It’s important that you are consistent with your child’s schedule and routines. To do this by moving all mealtimes and naps 1/2-hour later.
  5.  After 2-3 days, move your child’s bedtime back another 1/2-hour to 8:00 p.m. (the old 7:00 p.m.). You will also need to shift your baby’s waking time later by 1/2-hour. So you’ll now wake your child at 8:00 a.m.
  6. Adjust all mealtimes and naps 30-minutes later throughout your daily routine.

It can take a week or two for kids to adjust to the time change.  So, stay consistent and persistent.

Addicted to Happiness?

This year, I decided to embark on a year of HAPPINESS…a quest to choose happiness above everything else.  It sounds like a good idea, right?  Well… I am one month in and I discovered that ALWAYS choosing happiness may not be the best path.

If you dig deep enough, I bet you will discover that at the root of all of your desires is the motivation to feel happy.  From the moment you wake-up in the morning you begin subconsciously asking,

“What will make me happy?”

It’s 5:30am. The alarm echoes throughout the bedroom shrieking, “Wake up. Wake up. Wake up.” You turn off the alarm and lay in the silence of your cozy bed. You have a choice: Stay in bed and catch an extra hour of shut-eye or wake up and go for a morning run. What do you choose? How do you decide?

Answer:  You choose the option that will bring you the most happiness.

Some people sprint toward happiness (aka immediate gratification). Others marathon slow and steady (aka delayed gratification). Either way, you don’t willingly strap on your tennis shoes with the intention of feeling un-happy. You run to get a happiness-high.

You are addicted to happiness.

We are all addicted to happiness.  Our society has conditioned us to believe that we SHOULD be happy. Always.

Heaven forbid you start to feel the inkling of an emotion like sadness (gasp) or anger (oh no, not that)!  If that ever happens, you need to have a “plan” to get happy again. Then, voila. The un-happiness disappears…or does it? You see, the “get happy plan” doesn’t really make unhappiness disappear.  It just covers it up.

Exercising, eating, shopping, taking medicine, and a glass of wine are all external means to a temporary mind numbing happiness high.

The runner’s-high fades.

The beer buzz ends.

The novelty and excitement of the new purchase dwindles.

Then, what are you left with?  The  discontent you thought “magically disappeared” is still there. Shopping, drinking, and eating  don’t make feelings go away. They just cover them up. Stuff them away. Only to resurface after the temporary happiness fades.

Stuffing feelings beneath a facade of temporary happiness-highs is not the path to authentic, genuine happiness.  Hiding feelings of discontent is like hiding a potato under your bed.  After awhile, it rots and starts to stink.  Then you really have a problem.  Just think, all you had to do was deal with that potato–toss it in the garbage and let the garbage truck haul it away.  But, nooooo…you thought it would be easier to stuff it under your bed rather than deal with it.

Everyday we experience a spectrum of emotions and that is TOTALLY NORMAL.  But, somehow, society has made us believe that the ONLY choice is happiness.  Feeling sad?  Take a pill.  Go on vacation.  Eat this and you’ll feel happy again.Guess what? All that stuffing can literally make you sick.

A 2013 study conducted by psychologists from Harvard School of Public Health and the University of Rochester found that suppressing emotions may increase the risk of dying from heart disease and certain forms of cancer. This confirms earlier studies that have linked negative emotions like anger, anxiety, and depression to the development of heart disease.

Next time you feel sad, you have a choice. Ante up for another game of hide your unhappiness and seek some external happiness. Or grab hold of that sadness…FEEL it, deal with it, let it go and move on.  It’s like taking a dump.  Everybody knows it feels better to pinch one off than hold it in.  It is the same with feelings.  But still, some people think it’s easier to hold emotions in.

I don’t want to deal with my anger or sadness or disappointment!  I’ll just have a glass of wine and forget about it.

So, you hold on to it.  Hide it away. And when the “emotional stink” starts to surface, you cover it up with a glass of wine or a trip to the mall.  All better, right?  Nope.  It stinks worse tomorrow.  Answer: more wine more shopping.  A month later…totally rotten, but now you are stuffing it with a bottle of wine…and a mountain of credit card debt and…uh oh, you are on the slippery slope toward ADDICTION.

At what point does a behavior become an addiction?  The answer is DEPENDENCE.

  • If you NEED that wine or shopping or drug to feel good, you are on the pathway to addiction.
  • If that hour of “retail therapy” is COMPULSIVE and UNCONTROLLABLE, you are on the path to addiction.
  • If you CANNOT FEEL GOOD WITHOUT IT, it is an addiction.

It’s not hard to slide into a state of dependence upon external things to get a happiness-high.  What can you do when you find yourself on the path to addiction?

What if…instead of covering your feelings with external sources happiness, you discovered happiness within yourself?

What if…you could be happy by actually letting go of the expectation that you should feel happy all the time? FEELING all of your emotions, releasing judgements about yourself or how you should be, and loving yourself exactly the way you are is the path toward authentic happiness.

What if…you could be happy by simply closing your eyes and finding that peaceful place within–where you know that your higher being is protected and loved beyond all measure.

You can!

The potential to discover authentic happiness is there.  It is within you.

It may not be as easy as opening a bottle of wine, swallowing a pill, or swiping your credit card. But, this internal happiness is everlasting. It won’t fade.

This is how to do it: Steps to Authentic Happiness

So, what about my year of HAPPINESS? Oh, don’t you worry…I am still on a quest for happiness! It is just a quest for GENUINE, AUTHENTIC, INTERNAL happiness.  😊

Introduction to Empowerful Parenting™ 

What is Empowerful Parenting™? 

Empowerful Parenting™ is giving children the power and opportunity to learn and grow by doing things for themselves.

In a society of “helicopter parents” who swoop in anytime their child is challenged or uncomfortable, Empowerful Parents understand that it is through life’s challenges that we grow.

Empowerful Parents give their children space and opportunity to learn through experience.

Empowerful Parents provide children with honestloving guidance and positive support to develop independence and self-confidence.

Scenario:  Your 6-year old wails from the couch, “Mom, I’m thirsty!”

The enabling parent:  

Responds to needs by getting the child a drink.

The Empowerful Parent:  

Says an empowering statement, “You are thirsty? What are you going to do?” (This statement says:  I believe in your abilities.  You are capable.  I value your opinion.)

Then, gives space and time for child to think and respond.

If child needs help, parent offers guidance by saying, “You could get a cup from the panty for water or there are juice boxes in the refrigerator”

If child asks parent to do it for them, parent responds, “Let’s get your drink together.  I can show you how, so you will know what to do next time you feel thirsty.”

Scenario:  Your 10-year old has put off doing his book report–it is due tomorrow and he hasn’t even started yet.

The enabling parent:  

Helps the child by basically doing the project for him so he won’t get a bad grade.

The Empowerful Parent:  

Encourages the child with an empowering statement that helps the child recognize the strengths of the situation (i.e.  “you still have plenty of time to finish the project” or “you are smart kid, I know you’ll figure it out”).

Then, The Empowerful Parent gives the child space and time for independent problem solving while remaining present for positive support.

Next, offers guidance when child requests assistance.

Finally, if needed parent works together with the child to help facilitate problem solving.

The Empowerful Parent sees challenges like this as an opportunity for the child to learn about time management.

Learn more:  Empowerful Parenting™ Fox News interview 
I can’t talk about Empowerful Parenting™ without giving a “shout out” to all of the people who have influenced my evolution as a parent.  I am blessed to be surrounded by a community of Empowerful Parents.  It is these amazing mamas and papas who have helped me to see the power of positive thinking, recognizing abilities and providing children with safe and appropriate opportunities for growth and independence.  These relationships have helped me evolve from an enabling parent into an Empowerful Parent.  Thanks to all of you…you know who you are 😉